I didn't mean to sound overly dramatic in the subject line of this message, but it's true, I miss him. He left yesterday morning for Chicago and he'll be home late on Friday night. Life just isn't the same without him here. We're the kind of couple that actually likes being together! Weird, I know! A lot of women have husbands who travel a lot more than mine does, and I don't know how they do it. I guess it's just our personalities.
I suppose I could use some of this boring/lonely time to get some stuff done. I'm working on the guest list for my shower and I think that's coming along pretty well, but I'm still stressing a little bit. I'm still stuck in that "I don't want to make them feel obligated to come, but I don't want them to think that I don't want them there" cycle. I'd like to stick with people I know pretty well, but if I invite Ann (a teacher at my school) for instance, will Amanda (another teacher) be offended? It's not that I don't want Amanda there, because if she wanted to come, I'd certainly love to have her there, but I don't know as I really know her well enough to invite her out of the blue. And what about the ladies in the administrative office? I love them to bits, but would they want to spend a Sunday in July baby showering it up? Hard to tell! But again, if I invite them, I'm afraid that they'd feel obligated to come. And you know what? Some of the people I work with don't have a lot of disposable income, so do I just assume that they don't have enough to buy a present and refrain from inviting them? Because to be honest, their "presence," not their "presents" means more to me. (Corny, I know.) Actually, though, that's not even it. Their friendship means more to me than anything...even if they can't come to my shower, I'm thankful to have them as friends.
Do I overthink this? Probably. But I think that's just the way I am...I'm always worrying about what other people think. The good thing, though, is that people know me well enough to know that I'm NOT hung up on gifts and I won't be all offended if they don't come to my shower.
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First, there is absolutely nothing wrong with missing your husband and wanting to be near him. My husband and I are the same way. We go grocery shopping together and just hang with each other. He comes around to open my car door and we walk hand in hand wherever we go. How special,huh! Second, like the song says, "It's my party and I cry if I want to." Not that you're going to cry, but it's your shower, do what you want to do. Do what makes you happy.
ReplyDeleteI love that you're so close to your husband! We hold hands and grocery shop together, too. I look forward to the moment when he walks in the door every night. We don't do anything special, we just like being around each other! When we were in England last year, we spent nearly every moment together for 11 days and we actually LIKED it that way! People think we're weird. I think we're awesome! And I think you're awesome, too!!!
ReplyDeleteI just ended up inviting all of the people I was worried about. I figured if they can't come or don't want to, that's fine. I'm not in it for the gifts, I'm in it for the party!!! HA! I think it's going to be a blast just being around my friends and family for the day!
Wow... you sound like me!! I overthink SO MUCH! But I don't feel like I'm overthinking. Now you... you seem like you are ;o)
ReplyDeleteYeah, Future Mama--don't I just drive you nuts? I don't know why I'm so worried about what other people will think! Seriously--deciding to have a baby was easier than deciding who to invite to my shower! I'm going to make myself crazy!
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